Addictions

An addiction is classified as anything that moves you away from a bad feeling towards a good feeling.  So, anything that stops a bad feeling and causes a good feeling, and that you keep doing is an addiction. 

There are the usual addictions such as smoking, drinking, drugs, food and sugar, shopping, hoarding, shoplifting, stealing, and gambling.  And then we have new additions like on-line shopping, facetime, texting, there is a whole generation now who cannot leave their phones or laptops alone.  It’s still an addiction because it makes you feel good.  Other addictions include sex, porn, violence, and criminal activity.  There is also addiction to work, perfectionism, OCD, and some fears and phobias also carry their own addictive behaviour. 

Underneath every presenting addiction is a fundamental belief that either “I am not enough”, “I am different” or “It is not available to me”.  An addict will find truth in one, two or all three of these beliefs.  These beliefs and their associated thoughts and feelings hold us back from experiencing freedom and joy in all areas of our life.

If you can acknowledge an addiction in your life, ask yourself these three questions:

What do you believe is not available to you and why?
What makes you believe you are different?
What makes you believe you are not enough?   

Now just for a moment, imagine what your life will be like:

When you recognise that everything is available to you
When you recognise that feeling different makes you the same as everyone else, and
When you recognise that you are enough

There are many ‘Rules of the Mind’ (they are for another blog another day), but there are three underlying principles that form the foundation for all rules of the mind as follows:

Your mind does exactly what it thinks you want it to do
Your mind only responds to two things, the pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself and
Your mind loves what is familiar and hates what is unfamiliar

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